These positive traits are framed to teach you to be a magnet for healthy relationships. Such attributes will impact how you communicate, and point the way to more interpersonal effectiveness.
1. Be a person of remarkable honesty.
Be true to your character regardless of the outside pressures or temptations to act otherwise. Be willing to accept the consequences of what you consider to be right, at the core of your being. Don't let others dictate your course. Through raw authenticity, you will take control of life and move forward with confidence.
2. Be reliable.
People love a person who is trustworthy and makes decisions they can count on. Be consistent with what you say you're going to do, and then do it. Being a person of your word goes a long way.
A person who doesn't raise herself above others is someone who can be trusted. She will gain the favour of others because her humility is not only wise and honourable, but it leads to great knowledge and good judgement.
Cultivating a discerning spirit will let you see things 10 steps ahead of others. Your insights will be persuasive, so others will be drawn to learn from your wisdom, which you will want to find time to impart. And when you do, your gracious words will magnetically command the presence of others.
While some people see only one option, you take the higher road to listen to advice and counsel from those further down the path of growth. You leverage wise feedback to keep yourself out of trouble and steer you in the right direction.
Self-awareness can alert you to what relationships to invest in and what advisers to seek counsel from. If you're having lunch with someone who is spreading malicious things about others, you may be next on his list. Walk away. Also beware of group think, as it can quickly lead to a toxic bandwagon that may send your reputation down the toilet.
If you're convinced you can justify a certain behaviour, like greed or arrogance, you're like the frog in boiling water who doesn't know it's being boiled alive. Break the cycle of behaviour that damages relationships by acquiring new knowledge first. When your blind spots are exposed, take massive action to change that behaviour with reckless abandon. You will gain new followers and friends as a result.
Troublemakers start fights and gossips break up friendships. Rise above it all--slander, dissension, disputes, finger-pointing--all things that will trouble the heart and leave you in a reactionary stress mode. Be cool-tempered instead of quick-tempered, patient and slow to anger, and wise enough to keep calm and understand the circumstances around you. Be an ambassador for promoting peace.
There's a saying from an old wise king that goes like this: "Words satisfy the mind as much as fruit does the stomach; good talk is as gratifying as a good harvest." So much conflict, confusion, and misunderstanding comes from our words. Be careful about what you speak, and don't talk out of both sides of your mouth. Instead, give good and sound advice, and have the other person's best interest in mind. You'll get a lot more in return.
This is what initiates the best conversations--learning about what other people do, how they do it, why they do it. People love to talk about themselves, and smart people let them! So be the person who shows up with the humble gesture of "I want to learn from you."